Need More Support? Here's What To Do

by - January 11, 2019

We all need to feel cared for, valued, and supported by those we love. This is especially important when we’re going through a rough time or a period of stress. Perhaps you’re sick, off work with an injury, or you’re struggling with a personal situation. It’s important that you don’t simply try to stick these things out on your own if you know they are mentally and/or physically affecting you.

If you’re feeling like you need more support, this is what you can do:

Find A Support Network
First of all, see if you can find a support network. For instance, forums where people are going through the same thing as you and can share advice. Your support network doesn’t always have to be friends and family, although you should be careful about random chat rooms online - remember that people aren't always who they say they are online, and you might end up in a scary situation if they target you while you’re feeling vulnerable.

All of that aside, be smart and look for support online. There’s all kinds of information out there and there will definitely be a person or people you can speak to.

Keep A Journal
A journal can potentially help you to identify patterns and stress triggers that are making you feel like you need more support in the first place. You may become more self aware as a result, and you might even find other benefits in journaling that help you to improve your life further. Journaling can also be a lot of fun to look back on later on in life. You might even find that you come up with better coping mechanisms when you journal, as you spot patterns in how you handle certain situations.

Figure Out Why You Don’t Feel Like You’re Being Supported
Why don’t you feel like you are being supported enough? Are you doing something out of the ordinary that the people you know and love just don’t understand? Could you potentially be asking too much of those around you? For example, if you’ve had an injury that wasn’t your fault, you should get an injury lawyer - you can’t expect a family member or friend to sort everything out for you. You may need to give yourself some tough love.

Try To Figure Out Where Others Are Coming From
It can always help to see things from another person’s point of view. Why do you think this other person isn’t supporting you? If they are usually a fantastic friend/family member, there’s probably a good reason, in their eyes. Try to see things from their point of view.

Be Honest
Have you outright told your loved ones you need more support? Don’t play the blame game, don’t try to pull on their heart strings, and don’t try to manipulate them - just tell them that you would really like it if they were there for you because you’re struggling alone. Be honest. People aren't mind readers, and you might not be as great at hinting as you think you are. There’s no shame in needing help!

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