Special Guest: How to Deal with Unsolicited Parenting Advice

by - August 04, 2017

If you have children, are pregnant or are recently married then I am certain that you’ve had to deal with unsolicited advice or comments about your parenting and family size.  It’s an occupational hazard of being human, everyone seems to think you need their opinion.

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Some typical comments you’ll get as a parent include:

“ You’re STILL breastfeeding?! ”
“ Two kids.  So you’re done, right? ”
“ Two boys.  Now you have to try for a girl!”
“ You MUST do baby-led weaning!”

The list could go on and on.

A few of my favorite insensitive comments I’ve received as a mom include:

“ Oh my babies NEVER did that!”
“ You shouldn’t cuddle them so much.”
“ Breastfeeding is so natural and easy.”
“ I NEVER left my kids with a babysitter.”


Parenting is hard enough without having other people give you bad or insensitive advice.  Here are a few tips for handling the unwanted comments.

11.) Give people the benefit of the doubt.  Most people have good intentions and simply don’t know what to say, especially if they don’t know you that well.  I don’t have to think back too far to come up with a time when I said something totally idiotic.

2.) People who don’t have children of their own know very little about what it’s like.  Try not to take offense at their uninformed advice.  Instead take the opportunity to educate them.

3.)  Repeat offenders should be cut off.  Sometimes you just need distance from people who routinely strip you of your confidence.  If they don’t take the hint that their opinions are unwelcome then take a break from them.

4.) Try to stay away from the moms who think their way of parenting is the only way.  That’s total nonsense and those people will always make you feel bad and judged.  Avoid them.

5.) If the advice is coming from a trusted source like a close friend or family member, then try to be open-minded.  I know from experience that it’s easy to get blinded to other methods when you’re struggling to survive the day to day.  Be flexible and try something new, it might just work out!

6.) Keep in mind that older folks probably have dated advice and it’s not meant to offend at all!  Times have changed, just smile and thank them politely.

7.) Set the example yourself.  Be the mom who never questions another mom’s family size or asks the child-less woman when she’ll start having kids.  Don’t be judgey of another mom’s parenting style.  There are a bajillion different types of children and a bajillion different ways to parent them.  There are some experiences of parenthood that are universal and some that are totally unique.  Be the cool mom who loves everyone!

How do you handle bad parenting advice?



Laura is a mama of 2 boys aged 5 and 3.  She runs a handmade business from her seaside home in Nova Scotia, Canada making wool felt accessories and nursery décor.  You’ll find plenty of unsolicited motherhood tips and tricks on her blog!

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